Updated: Apr 29, 2021
1 John 3:20 AMPC Whenever our hearts in [tormenting] self-accusation make us feel guilty and condemn us. [For we are in God’s hands.] For He is above and greater than our consciences (our hearts), and He knows (perceives and understands) everything [nothing is hidden from Him].
We have learned that Guilt, Anger, Greed, and Jealousy are the four primary enemies of the heart—four life-blocking agents that become lodged in the heart/soul of a person, poisoning our relationships, our faith, and our character. Today we will continue to discover that in matters of the heart, God doesn’t just want to heal. He brings a complete change of heart!
Confronting the four enemies of a healthy heart: Turning on the light!
#1 Guilt: I owe you! Confession is the key to confronting guilt.
#2 Anger: You owe me!
The angry person approaches life, love, and relationships looking to be paid back.
The light that frees the heart from the pain and bitterness that anger brings is forgiveness. Angry people need to develop the habit of forgiving.
Exterminating your anger - The dangers of letting it linger.
Read Ephesians 4:31 AMPC
Anger from hurt that is allowed to stay creates a victim mentality.
It’s these feelings of victimization that fuel our justifications and excuses.
In time, we come to believe the lie: “It’s okay for you to behave the way you do.
Exterminating Your Anger: The secret formula
Read Mathew 18:21-35 AMPC
Forgiveness runs so contrary to our sense of justice and fairness that it’s unlikely we’ll ever feel like forgiving.
We’re to extend an attitude of forgiveness that mirrors the kind God extended toward you in Christ.”
Exterminating your anger: The four phases that break the cycle.
#1. Identify who you are angry with!
Make a list of the people who have mistreated or taken advantage of you. Trying to forget a debt isn’t the same as canceling it.
This is an opportunity to purge your heart of the junk that has been hindering the relationships you value most.
#2. Determine what they owe you.
You know what the person who hurt you did, but what exactly did they take? Until you know the answer to that question, you’re not ready to forgive.
General forgiveness doesn’t heal specific hurts.
You cannot cancel a debt that you haven’t clearly identified.
#3. Cancel the debt.
This is deciding that the offending party doesn’t owe you anything anymore.
Heavenly Father, _________ has taken _________ from me. I have held on to this debt long enough. I choose to cancel this debt. _________ doesn’t owe me anymore. Just as you forgave me, I forgive _________.
#4 Dismiss the case. This is the daily decision not to reopen the case.
When memories of past hurts flood your mind, instead of reopening the case against your offender, take this opportunity to restate your decision: He/she doesn’t owe me.
Read Micah 7:18c-20 NLT